So as the song goes, “I woke up this morning and I grabbed myself a beer…” I also woke up to a comment/question from a single mom (Tina) about one of the many posts I’ve done about why guys should avoid single mothers. Here’s Tina’s comment:
Is there any single mom worth a man’s companionship?
What about a mom who treats her ex with respect, doesn’t allow bad mouthing of him, has custody of the kids, pays for the kids expenses, gave her ex most of the assets, and understands that the world does not revolve around her precious perfect angels…
It is understandable that dating a single parent is challenging in the best of situations – But all single mom’s are shit?
I grew up hearing men our worthless and my parents were married until I was 25. Now that I have two boys of my own I have become painfully aware of how my “men are useless” upbringing has been damaging to me and those around me.
I totally get where you are coming from in these post and I agree that single mom’s are raising entire generations of messed up kids. It just sucks to think a potentially great guy would not give me a slight chance simply because I’m a single mom.
First off Tina I actually did a post about a “good” single mom, you can find it here. But I shall cover some of those points again now.
Tina, lets say for the sake of argument that you are a great woman, but as you said yourself…..dating a single mother is a challenge even in the best of situations. Plus you didn’t mention what kind of guy your ex was. Is he a loser that’s in and out of jail who loves to cause trouble, does he call multiple times a week just to “talk to the kids”, does he pay child support or would that be something your new guy would eventually have to cover if he got with you?
You have to look at the odds of many situations in life. For example, I can remember at summer camp the camp counselors would tell all the kids to treat all snakes as if they were poisonous. They didn’t say they ALL were poisonous, but that it was a much better idea to treat them as such and avoid them than to look at one and decide on your own that it isn’t dangerous and you end up getting bit by a rattlesnake.
And Tina, since you want a “great guy”, I’m sure that kind of guy has lots of other options and you have to be aware of your competition. A great guy can date great women without any kids.
A woman that doesn’t he doesn’t have to wait until the kids go to sleep or she finds a babysitter so that they can have sex. A woman that can go to the beach on a moment’s notice. A woman who doesn’t have a guy she used to bang as a permanent part of her life forever. A woman who doesn’t have little replicas of that guy she used to bang running around the house to remind him that someone else got you back when you were younger and hotter.
Also kids love to play parents and other adults against each other. Many a guy who has gotten with a single mother has heard a phrase like “You’re not my real dad!!”. Ahhhh, the joys of step-parenthood.
But I’m an open-minded kind of drunk, so Tina if you or any other single mother would like to explain why a successful guy would choose a single mother over a woman without kids……….. I’m sure my readers would love to hear that one! Good luck because that’s a pretty hard sell. I think if you give a guy the choice between two great women and the only difference is one of them has kids…………..I’m betting most guys are going with the childless chick.
Ok fuckers, that’s it for now. I doubt we’ll get any actual responses outside of the usual personal attacks, which just proves our point.
You’re now free to lick PBR off a nice Brazilian ass.